Characters, Scenes

How to Write a Best-Friend Relationship (Between Girls!)

Have you ever struggled with writing best-friend relationships between girl characters? Today I’ll be sharing with you 3 tips on creating a realistic one!

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1. Being Physical

One thing I’ve noticed and have certainly done myself is that girls just randomly touch each other when talking. Not in any weird way – in fact, it feels perfectly normal. 

We don’t mind touching each other’s shoulders or playfully elbowing each other, or even leaning on each other. Oh, and don’t get me started on the hugging. We have no qualms about just randomly hugging each other.


2. Getting Way Too Excited

As best friends, girls can get literally way too hyper and excited about basically nothing. We could end up jumping up and down and yelling at each other really excitedly, or we can die laughing, or our voices will just get super high.

orrrrr all of the above


When something awesome happens to our best friend it’s perfectly normal for us to start squealing for them. I know that sounds super weird but I guess it’s just how we work!

3. We Just ‘Get’ Each Other

I’m pretty sure this is something that happens with any best-friend relationship, but once you take the top tips and begin weaving it into this next tip, the girly personalities and best friend relationship will weave together into one! 

Best friend’s ‘get’ each other. We can:

  • finish each other’s sentences
  • understand each other’s feelings
  • have the same hobbies (‘opposites attract’ does not really apply here. Especially when it comes to best friends. The reason that they like the same things is probably how they ended up bonding in the first place).
  • work together really well in situations like sports or activities and hobbies they share.
  • trust each other.
  • talk about anything without feeling weird

Include all these things and your friendship relationships will immediately feel more realistic.

*A Word of Advice:

The tips I’ve given you on writing girl’s personalities is not 100% applicable to every girl. I’ve witnessed many different friendships girls have with one another and they aren’t all so ‘girly’ (so don’t be weirded out and don’t assume every girl acts like this!).

Still, these are some great things to definitely work off of and weave into your writing! Hoped this helped anyone who struggles to write girl’s friendships!Screen Shot 2019-02-10 at 2.39.03 PM

This is just a base layer for girl’s friendships. I’ve been thinking about it a lot recently and I might do another post on digging deeper into how these friendships can be slid in when writing. What do you guys think?

Have you ever struggled with writing best-friend relationships between characters? Or, more specifically, between girls?

Have you ever struggled with writing realistic dynamics between two girl characters?

Want me to dig deeper into best-friend relationships between characters in another post?

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32 thoughts on “How to Write a Best-Friend Relationship (Between Girls!)”

  1. Wow, your posts are always so realistic! You literally just described how my school friends and I are with each other. One of my best friends and I call every week, and the whole time we’re just shrieking with laughter over jokes no one else will get. XD

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    1. Thank you, Joy!! Ahaha that sounds SO true though!
      I have so many inside jokes with one of my friends and we just die laughing over them, but, like, if anyone heard our conversations they would be very concerned 😂

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  2. This was so helpful and so true!!! Me and one of my friends can talk about ANYTHING that should be weird but it’s just not when we talk about it. Although, I’m usually the one doing most of the squealing in the conversations.
    And the inside jokes are endless, but most of them weren’t that funny to begin with and we just end up sounding REALLY weird when we talk about them. XD
    Great post!!!! I can’t wait to use the tips in my writing!!!

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      1. Your welcome!! I’ve realized that I haven’t written many friendship scenes in my current WIP. I feel like that should change since I wanted it to be partly about friendship.😂

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      2. Thank you! Exactly!! They just seem to disappear sometimes and then you come to a scene where you actually need the friendship and it’s not there.

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  3. Love these tips! And you’re right about everything on here – in fact while I was reading I was thinking, “she must have spied on me and my bffs” because it was SO ACCURATE!!

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    1. Thank you, Ari!! Ahahaha, honestly I just thought about all the crazy things I’ve done with my friends and then saw other people also doing the same things and I was like: okay, time to write a blog post on this 😆


  4. Looking back on my high-school years, I think much of it applied to girls that were friends, maybe except the high-pitched screams, because high school is a serious thing and they wouldn’t do something like that in such a serious place.

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    1. Definitely true! Ahaha, yes, I’m sure most girls would understand not to scream at school. I’ve definitely witnessed lotsa high-pitched giggling in public, though, so I think we reserve the screaming to when we’re at each other’s houses or something 😂


  5. Ooooh, this was AWESOME!!!!!! It’s actually really inspiring me to write some best friend girl relationships. (‘Cause for some unknown reason a lot of my MCs are dudes and I’ve never gotten to really write that. 😢) I would absolutely LOVE to read another post that dived deeper into best friend relationships!!!! <33 This is some super helpful stuff for me!!!

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    1. Aw, of course!! And thank you so much for reading it, Penny!!
      Agh, I know right! I’m pretty much drawing up a blank on books that have solid female friendships. There definitely needs to be more written! Ahh, thanks so much!!

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  6. Wow! All of these are so true for girls!!! We definitely like the hugging! I don’t think I have ever attempted to write best-friend relationships between girls, but I will definitely write them now. 🙂
    A post going deeper about best-friend relationships would be great!!!

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    1. Thanks so much, Katherine!!! lol, yes, we definitely like the hugging! Honestly, yeah, me either, but I’ve always wanted to try it!
      Ooh, okay, I’ll definitely be brainstorming ideas for a post like that then! 😄

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  7. Mary, you’re like the QUEEN of writing advise! XD Everything you said here was 100% spot-on for me!!! This will TOTALLY help with writing girl friendships! Thanks so much for the tips!!! (Oh, and I think it would be awesome if you did a deeper post on best friend relationships, too!) 😀

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    1. Oh my gosh, thank you SO much, Victoria!! That’s awesome!! Ahh yay, I’m so glad!! (Ooh, okay, I am 100% doing a post on this now, hopefully sometime soon 😊)


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